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Old Friends and New Ones

During the past 3 months I've learned just how special my girlfriends are. I mean, I've always known that I've got some of the best friends around, but so many of them have really made an effort to cheer me up, help us out, or offer support in any way they can. Our mailbox is often full with wonderful cards from family, friends, coworkers, and people that only know of me through others. Words will never be able to express how much this means to me, and how much this truly lifts my spirits.

Between our amazing families and friends, I really feel like I've got a whole team supporting me through this. It helps my morale, but it also makes me want to fight harder - I can't let my team down now can I?!

But over these past 3 months, I've also met a whole new clan of friends too. My "cancer friends" as I usually label them when I talk to anyone about them. These are other breast cancer survivors about my age that I've met through family and friends, and people I've met in treatment or at yoga. These friends have provided me with so much hope and inspiration. Some are women my age with young kids who are already out of treatment and now living their lives fully. They are great resources to talk to about treatment side effects, effects on the kids, how to get back to normal, etc. One is a woman my age currently going through my same treatment protocol a month ahead of me. And one is this amazing man who was diagnosed with a very rare form of cancer that only 10,000 people have. It attacks his liver and lungs and there is not much known about its origin or how to treat it. His treatment is going on indefinitely. Indefinitely. I have an end date (June 13 hopefully!).. he doesn't. I can't even imagine what that must be like.  I feel like I've met each of these people for a very important reason. They have all already enhanced my life in many ways, and I know they will continue to do so going forward.

And I hope that I can give all of my friends, old and new,something that they have given me - hope, happiness, faith and love.

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  1. MamaMarch 31, 2011 at 7:31 AM

    You are such a beautiful person and your comments prove just that. You appreciate all the people around you who love and support you. You do have a large circle of support, which helps a lot. I will be praying for your friend with no end. Love Mama

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  2. Two GrohsMarch 31, 2011 at 12:29 PM

    Hells yes. Good friends flock to good. Loves you. Scrabble is on tonight.

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